Addicts Not All The Same

There is a tendency to think that all addicts are the same. Addiction and survivors of abuse are first of all people. Stereotyping all alcoholics, all drug users and any other form of addiction as a common personality type does not work.

Would you say that all people with a broken leg are the same?

What has to be thought about at all times is 'Are we treating the disease or are we trying to change what we perceive to be a personality defect.' Which may indeed be a personality defect. Even if it is not a personality defect is it what you want? Some addicts are basically nice people. Others can be very horrible. Others still are nice people but we don't want to be with them.

There are commonalities due to the disease but not everything we do not like is the disease. Mostly it is the person. The not very nice addicts will often play on their addiction to excuse unacceptable behaviour.

More than one person has spent years getting their addict sober or dry only to find that they do not actually like the addict. Those wasted years can never be recovered.

It is not fashionable to say walk away but there is a good case for looking at the addict and asking 'Do I like this person.' If you do not like this person then walk away. Your health and well-being is more important than someone you don't like.

This is a major problem for anyone caught up in the addiction merry-go-round. It is very easy for the focus to be on the addict full time and lose sight of who we are and what we want. Where is it written that you have to care for a person you do not like just because they have a self-inflicted condition?

Even if there is a problem such as childhood abuse it is still up to the addict to do something about it. The usual thing that happens is the addict will use the problem as the excuse for not doing anything to help themselves. Why change when everything they want can be obtained by manipulating those around them?

Addicts, as part of the disease, are Zen Masters at manipulation. Even the nicest of addicts are very manipulative. This is the thing that as a partner of significant other of an addict must be constantly aware off. The addict will try to manipulate you at all times.

If there is to be progress towards the recovery of an addict the manipulation has to stop. That is up to you because it won't be in the addict's interest to stop the manipulation. They thrive on it. If the manipulation stops the addict will sometimes leave to find someone they can manipulate. If they do it can cause grief but it is a sign that your recovery is well under way.

If a basically OK person teams up with an addict the addict does not get better, the OK person gets sick. If you are reading this you will probably already know the sickness is called co-dependency.

Most literature on co-dependency will concentrate on how to survive and restore our sanity in a relationship with an addict. What is often forgotten is whether or not you want to be there is the first place. Often the reason we stay is a misguided sense of duty and fear.

These are the addict's weapons. Misguided duty and fear. Even if the addict is your son or daughter what is your duty to them? Is it you duty to fall into a deep hole of fear and shame for all the things your addict blames you for or says you should have done? So you made mistakes, some real but mostly they are the mistakes your addict invents to manipulate you.

Do you want to continue to sink deeper into this dark place? The way out of the dark place starts by looking at your situation and asking yourself quietly and calmly if this is really where you want to be. It must be quietly and calmly because spur of the moment decisions will not work long term. The first secret is to see the situation as it is and decide if this is what you want. It is difficult to imagine what it would be like with this person without the disease and it might take a long time to see, but that is what is required if the decision is to be right for you.

If you decide to physically leave be certain that it is because you want something better; not just that you are running away.

You may want to physically stay or you might want to leave. Either way this is the beginning. If you physically stay you can still leave that dark place by learning not to be controlled or manipulated. The game of addiction takes at least two to play. Learn how not to play and things have to change.

Addicts are not all the same. There is still the person that you may or may not like. The problem is that it all gets blamed on the disease without any understanding of the person. The disease masks everything else. See the disease as it is and the size it is and it is not everything. There is much more. It is this much more that needs to be looked at.

The control and manipulation must stop. What is needed to stop the addicts control and manipulation, and to stop your control and manipulation? There is no way known you can control or manipulate an addict. It is part of the disease that they will always be one step ahead of you. The only way forward is to end the manipulation, which means stopping your manipulation. If you don't then today is the best day of your life. From here on in it is down hill all the way.

I only write about things that I have experienced. In all things to do with addictions it has to be experienced to understand. I come from the postion of not sacrificing ourself on the alter of someone else's addiction. Please visit my website http://www.yosefalbric.com/ for more of my work. Yosef Albric

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How Counseling Helps Addicts in Addiction Recovery? (Nicholas Grimaldi)

Those who are the victims of drug or alcohol abuse can benefit from counseling or behavioral therapy in a number of ways. It is the most effective treatment to help alcoholics and drug addicts to get rid of their detestable habits, and also deal with addiction recovery symptoms. Some counseling experts suggest both individual and group therapy for the betterment of individuals.

Several methods are employed by psychoanalysts, but all of them are meant to alter behavioral patterns of addicts so that they are able to abstain from alcoholic beverages and drugs. Let's understand now how psychotherapy helps.

The first and foremost benefit is teaching patients to develop the determination required to avoid drinks, cocaine, and drugs. When individuals are obsessed with stuff like cocaine, brown sugar, and alcohol, they lose control on themselves and their behavior. This makes it extremely challenging for the victims of substance abuse to quit drinking or taking cocaine. With the help of cognitive behavioral treatment, one can learn how to control cravings and deal with negative emotions that compel them to consume alcohol or drugs. Again, specialists at drug rehab centers teach patients to evade a relapse.

Counselors encourage alcoholics and substance abusers to be part of support groups. This helps patients feel that they are not alone in the crowd. It's not that they are going through a difficult phase in life alone. Involvement in group therapy classes help individuals that others are experiencing similar challenges. This way, it improves their confidence to stay away from addiction and share ideas and discuss problems.

Motivating alcoholics or addicts through motivational improvement therapy and interviewing plays a crucial role in recovery. In such sessions, people are made to understand the perils of addiction and how it destroys lives of the addicted person, as well as, those closely associated, such as family members. The counselor explains how obsession in alcohol or drugs can impact one's life adversely and the consequences. It's not that only problems are discussed, but patients are also encouraged to take necessary actions to get rid of their obnoxious habit.

Sometimes, small incentives are offered during the recovery process. It has been observed that incentives help in behavioral changes, in addicts. Since getting rid of addiction involves a great amount of patience and commitment, it is beneficial for patients to be compensated with little incentives. These rewards are given to appreciate the achievements of the addicted persons in the recovery process. You might be wondering what these rewards are. Well, these are little but significant incentives like restaurant coupons, movie tickets, or gift coupons for people reaching milestones during the therapy. These rewards will encourage patients to stay motivated and complete the counseling sessions.

Involvement of friends and family members in addiction recovery programs also help victims of alcoholism and drug abuse to stay motivated. There is nothing like the cooperation of family members. If they take time out and get educated about their loved one's addiction, the patient's recovery becomes all easy. This way, victims feel that they are not ostracized, but supported to help get rid of drinking and drug abuse.

What are your views on this topic? Please feel free to comment.

Nicholas Grimaldi is a professional counselor who educates people regarding Addiction Recovery programs and Drug Rehab centers. He also helps by building Addiction Social Networking and communities such as Amity Connect that encourage learning and sharing problems as a method to fight addiction.

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Amity Connect Encourages Alcohol Addicts to Take the Road to Recovery (Nicholas Grimaldi)

Addiction to alcohol destroys lives, family, and children. Over indulgence creates behavioral disorders, depression, nausea, loss of focus, and appetite. It makes you alienated from your loved ones, including wife and children. Coming out of this nefarious obsession could prove a long, difficult, and bumpy road for you. It might seem impossible to quit drinking, but it's not. If you are willing to quit and get the required support you need from your family, the road to recovery will be easy. Here are some useful tips from Amity Connect to help you tread the path of recovery.

Promise Not to Drink

First and foremost, you have to commit to stop boozing. This calls for a lot of courage and integrity. Some addicts think that they can change their habits overnight. No, it's a gradual process. These individuals stop for a day or two, and come up with excuses and drag their feet to a pub. This is the reason you need to acknowledge your uncertainty about quitting drinking. Make a solemn promise; only then you will be able to overcome.

Set Realistic Goals

In most cases, it has been observed stopping all at once is not possible. When it comes to alcohol addiction recovery, you need to decide whether you wish to stop completely or lessen the intake. If you are cutting down on quantity, decide which days you will drink and which days you will abstain from it. Decide how many drinks you will take per day. This way, you will be able to lessen the consumption gradually. Most important is staying away from all sorts of temptations. Remove alcohol related stuff like bottles, barware, and other reminders from your home.

Avoid People Who Drinks

It's better creating a wall and getting distant from friends, or associates who drinks heavily and doesn't appreciate your efforts to quit. If this implies staying away from your bosom friend, then do so for your health's sake. Let friends, family members, and colleagues know that you are trying to quit. If they drink, request them not to do so in your presence. Avoid the company of friends whose conversations are mostly based on booze. They are your worst enemies!

Find Some Interesting Hobby

If you are a heavy drinker, it is imperative to get sober safely. If the situation is serious, seek medical attention. Professional treatment and rehab centers can help you walk the road to recovery. However, to abstain from this habit permanently, you will need to find new meaning in life. Find some interesting hobby for your leisure hours, and especially when you are alone. It can be anything like watching movies, taking up a sport, joining the gym, or taking up swimming classes.

Avoid Situations that Trigger Your Urge to Drink

Amity Connect motivates you to avoid places and situations that trigger the urge to drink. If certain places, people, or situation arouses your desire to booze, simply avoid them. Do not fall prey to social pressures. Say a big no to alcohol in social get-togethers and parties.

Do you wish to share your experiences? Feel free to comment.

Nicholas Grimaldi is a professional counselor who educates people regarding drug rehabs and Addiction Recovery programs. He also helps by building Addiction Social Networking and communities such as Amity Connect that encourage learning and sharing problems as a method to fight addiction.

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Make Your Office or Any Workplace Addicts Free by Conducting Drug or Alcohol Screen Program

In order to make appropriate decision during selection of candidates, various organizations conduct drug test. As per the technological advancement, you can get instant results of the conducted tests. Moreover, you do not have to wait for the laboratory test results. For secure and fruitful environment in the office many companies opt for such evaluations. With assistance of such kind of services, you can easily differentiate between addicted and non addicted people. You can also keep the office ambience clear and free from addicted people. Organizations can consult leading service providers offering their paramount services at really competitive prices.

To maintain the workplace free of addicts, you can opt for Dot durg screen organize for the employees. You will be provided with drug free surrounding in your workplace. The Dot drug screen is engaged with random testing. It comprises with five test panels as well as five drug components that are being tested and used in drug screen. These components include Cocaine, Opiates, Amphetamines, Marijuana, and phencyclidine. With assistance of this test you can get guaranteed satisfaction. Through this service you can eliminate the unusual problems. Along with testing, you will be provided with counseling and rehabilitation facility as well.

The drug test providers detect the problem and provide proper medication in order to maximize the health of employees. Moreover, they also help to confer outstanding health and future. You will be provided with different types of services that include specimen collection, review of current policy, laboratory testing, breath-alcohol screen, Data base management, Blind sample submission, confidential resulting reports, employee education, Drug and alcohol program, FAA drug program and much more.

You will be provided with FAA drug testing consortium services. Consortium is the assembly of businesses engaged together for the common reason and purpose. With the help of this service you can get gratifying federal drug and alcohol screen. By using innovative and professional approach, they will provide you effective services. This is the best way to maintain the office environment healthy and addiction free. For alcohol and drug screen you can get different types of evaluation services such as:-

Advanced urine testing

DOT and FAA screening

Hair Follicle Testing

Background Checks

Random Testing Program

Post accident testing

Trust on leading firms offering their services at reasonable costs. You can contact them via phone call or online. They are just one phone call away from you. Their phone representatives will answer all your queries and consult you effectively. Enhance the safety and sanctity of your office with the help of their superlative services.

Neweradrugtesting
http://www.neweradrugtesting.com/
New Era Drug Testing California - a finest source solution to your drug & alcohol testing needs. we provide dot drug screen, drug testing consortium, pipeline drug testing, faa drug testing consortium, faa drug program test and dot drug testing consortium.For more information please visit FAA drug program.

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Addicts Not All The Same

There is a tendency to think that all addicts are the same. Addiction and survivors of abuse are first of all people. Stereotyping all alcoholics, all drug users and any other form of addiction as a common personality type does not work.

Would you say that all people with a broken leg are the same?

What has to be thought about at all times is 'Are we treating the disease or are we trying to change what we perceive to be a personality defect.' Which may indeed be a personality defect. Even if it is not a personality defect is it what you want? Some addicts are basically nice people. Others can be very horrible. Others still are nice people but we don't want to be with them.

There are commonalities due to the disease but not everything we do not like is the disease. Mostly it is the person. The not very nice addicts will often play on their addiction to excuse unacceptable behaviour.

More than one person has spent years getting their addict sober or dry only to find that they do not actually like the addict. Those wasted years can never be recovered.

It is not fashionable to say walk away but there is a good case for looking at the addict and asking 'Do I like this person.' If you do not like this person then walk away. Your health and well-being is more important than someone you don't like.

This is a major problem for anyone caught up in the addiction merry-go-round. It is very easy for the focus to be on the addict full time and lose sight of who we are and what we want. Where is it written that you have to care for a person you do not like just because they have a self-inflicted condition?

Even if there is a problem such as childhood abuse it is still up to the addict to do something about it. The usual thing that happens is the addict will use the problem as the excuse for not doing anything to help themselves. Why change when everything they want can be obtained by manipulating those around them?

Addicts, as part of the disease, are Zen Masters at manipulation. Even the nicest of addicts are very manipulative. This is the thing that as a partner of significant other of an addict must be constantly aware off. The addict will try to manipulate you at all times.

If there is to be progress towards the recovery of an addict the manipulation has to stop. That is up to you because it won't be in the addict's interest to stop the manipulation. They thrive on it. If the manipulation stops the addict will sometimes leave to find someone they can manipulate. If they do it can cause grief but it is a sign that your recovery is well under way.

If a basically OK person teams up with an addict the addict does not get better, the OK person gets sick. If you are reading this you will probably already know the sickness is called co-dependency.

Most literature on co-dependency will concentrate on how to survive and restore our sanity in a relationship with an addict. What is often forgotten is whether or not you want to be there is the first place. Often the reason we stay is a misguided sense of duty and fear.

These are the addict's weapons. Misguided duty and fear. Even if the addict is your son or daughter what is your duty to them? Is it you duty to fall into a deep hole of fear and shame for all the things your addict blames you for or says you should have done? So you made mistakes, some real but mostly they are the mistakes your addict invents to manipulate you.

Do you want to continue to sink deeper into this dark place? The way out of the dark place starts by looking at your situation and asking yourself quietly and calmly if this is really where you want to be. It must be quietly and calmly because spur of the moment decisions will not work long term. The first secret is to see the situation as it is and decide if this is what you want. It is difficult to imagine what it would be like with this person without the disease and it might take a long time to see, but that is what is required if the decision is to be right for you.

If you decide to physically leave be certain that it is because you want something better; not just that you are running away.

You may want to physically stay or you might want to leave. Either way this is the beginning. If you physically stay you can still leave that dark place by learning not to be controlled or manipulated. The game of addiction takes at least two to play. Learn how not to play and things have to change.

Addicts are not all the same. There is still the person that you may or may not like. The problem is that it all gets blamed on the disease without any understanding of the person. The disease masks everything else. See the disease as it is and the size it is and it is not everything. There is much more. It is this much more that needs to be looked at.

The control and manipulation must stop. What is needed to stop the addicts control and manipulation, and to stop your control and manipulation? There is no way known you can control or manipulate an addict. It is part of the disease that they will always be one step ahead of you. The only way forward is to end the manipulation, which means stopping your manipulation. If you don't then today is the best day of your life. From here on in it is down hill all the way.

I only write about things that I have experienced. In all things to do with addictions it has to be experienced to understand. I come from the postion of not sacrificing ourself on the alter of someone else's addiction. Please visit my website http://www.yosefalbric.com/ for more of my work. Yosef Albric

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Make Your Office or Any Workplace Addicts Free by Conducting Drug or Alcohol Screen Program

In order to make appropriate decision during selection of candidates, various organizations conduct drug test. As per the technological advancement, you can get instant results of the conducted tests. Moreover, you do not have to wait for the laboratory test results. For secure and fruitful environment in the office many companies opt for such evaluations. With assistance of such kind of services, you can easily differentiate between addicted and non addicted people. You can also keep the office ambience clear and free from addicted people. Organizations can consult leading service providers offering their paramount services at really competitive prices.

To maintain the workplace free of addicts, you can opt for Dot durg screen organize for the employees. You will be provided with drug free surrounding in your workplace. The Dot drug screen is engaged with random testing. It comprises with five test panels as well as five drug components that are being tested and used in drug screen. These components include Cocaine, Opiates, Amphetamines, Marijuana, and phencyclidine. With assistance of this test you can get guaranteed satisfaction. Through this service you can eliminate the unusual problems. Along with testing, you will be provided with counseling and rehabilitation facility as well.

The drug test providers detect the problem and provide proper medication in order to maximize the health of employees. Moreover, they also help to confer outstanding health and future. You will be provided with different types of services that include specimen collection, review of current policy, laboratory testing, breath-alcohol screen, Data base management, Blind sample submission, confidential resulting reports, employee education, Drug and alcohol program, FAA drug program and much more.

You will be provided with FAA drug testing consortium services. Consortium is the assembly of businesses engaged together for the common reason and purpose. With the help of this service you can get gratifying federal drug and alcohol screen. By using innovative and professional approach, they will provide you effective services. This is the best way to maintain the office environment healthy and addiction free. For alcohol and drug screen you can get different types of evaluation services such as:-

Advanced urine testing

DOT and FAA screening

Hair Follicle Testing

Background Checks

Random Testing Program

Post accident testing

Trust on leading firms offering their services at reasonable costs. You can contact them via phone call or online. They are just one phone call away from you. Their phone representatives will answer all your queries and consult you effectively. Enhance the safety and sanctity of your office with the help of their superlative services.

Neweradrugtesting
http://www.neweradrugtesting.com/
New Era Drug Testing California - a finest source solution to your drug & alcohol testing needs. we provide dot drug screen, drug testing consortium, pipeline drug testing, faa drug testing consortium, faa drug program test and dot drug testing consortium.For more information please visit FAA drug program.

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